The Modern Buhari

She wears a wristwatch to stay up to date and her wedding ring gleams on her finger. Bangles may or may not jingle on her arm. Her bag is full of things that she will need throughout the day. With a smile on her face, she is ready to face the day ahead and she knows what she wants. The female gender is taught to be confident, self–accepting, and independent. And such is the same when women step into their new life after marriage.

There is no denying that her life is drastically changed. Waking up to a new bedroom, taking a few minutes to soak it all in during the first few days, adjusting to a new lifestyle, and adjusting to new ways at her new home, she has gone from a daughter to a daughter–in–law. The modern Buhari is all about balancing work life and housework. She manages to do double duties every single day. She will put her family ahead of everything else.

I’m sure you’ve met her. The modern Buhari is educated and not afraid to speak her opinion. Elegant and decent, she values norms yet questions old traditions if they do not make sense. Of course, you’ve met her: the modern Buhari, she must work with you at your company. She faces all new challenges head-on with a smile. She will not let you know about all these new responsibilities that she has taken hold of, now. Suddenly her family tree has grown to double its size, yet she accepts it with a charm that is so subtle, that you will never know. And such is the beauty of the modern Buhari.

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