Weight: A Still Controversial Issue

We’ve all been there, alright.

Oh, you’ve lost so much weight since we last met! You look so good!

Wow, you look healthier! Somebody’s looking plump.

Who hasn’t been listening to all these comments or compliments? Especially if you’re a female. They come from all around you. It’s just never good enough for everyone. You’re either too fat or too thin. And being either gets you commented on. There is just no winning.

It’s supposed to be a compliment if you’ve lost weight. I’m not saying a little on the heavier side is not good looking. I’ve seen a lot of women who are extravagantly beautiful or cute and also on the chubbier side. Hey, to each his/her own, right? But there is no denying that weight is still a controversial issue.

It’s a topic most women discuss or are frustrated about whether someone points it out at you or not. And it’s become extremely critical to know what is right and what is not when it comes to weight. It’s something most people will say, especially when they meet you after a lot of time. I can understand that weight can be genetic or because of some health issue so nobody is personally attacking no one personally here.

First things first, I will say again what I mentioned earlier that being a little plump is in now way unattractive. If you’re fine with it; good for you. But also keep an open mind to people telling you to be ‘more fit’ or ‘lose a little bit of weight’. After all, being overweight is directly effective on your health. So take that comment as concern for your health or for your own positive well being. How will you know the difference?

Your partner telling you to lose a little bit of weight or encouraging you to exercise and be fit is actually okay. Your partner leaving you because you’ve gained weight and don’t look attractive to him/her anymore is not okay.

Somebody comparing you to someone else and saying that the other person is more attractive because they are slim is not okay.

Somebody encouraging you to eat healthier is okay. Somebody telling you to skip meals for the sake of losing weight is not okay.

Weight is an issue we have all had to deal with at one time or another. And it doesn’t look like an issue that is going to go away anytime soon, wherever you are. Keep an open mind to others commenting on yours; but more than that be kind to yourself when it comes to yours.

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