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Can a Boy and a Girl be Friends?




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Let me cut right to the chase and answer the question before you read the rest of this article: yes they can. Why would you believe, or let others around you believe otherwise?

A boy and a girl cannot only be friends, they can be great friends; they can be best of friends; it is as simple as that. It is a belief that a boy and a girl cannot stay friends; stereotypes even. In a world where love between the same genders is possible, why is not friendship between the opposite?

I still remember through school and high school, we have always been shy, terrorized even of talking to the opposite gender. Being placed with the opposite gender was a punishment in the school days. You’d go on and on about who knows what with your buddy in class, but once your teacher notices you and places you in the ‘forbidden zone’, mum’s the word was the situation. I’d take it that was our innocence and childhood; the fear that we would be teaser by our friends.

But what about now? Is it society that has placed this stereotype on us? What stops us? Should we not make friends on basis of who we like to spend time with and who are nice and compatible people rather than based on gender?

I remember my friend telling me a couple of years back that if a guy and a girl are friends, one of them must be in a relationship, or they will always fall in love. Perhaps that is the case in many a situations. Perhaps, many people who started out as just friends are likely to fall in love later, and if that happens, well, good for them; but that is not always the case, is it?

I have seen many people who start out as friends and stay friends. Why? Because they are great at being friends. They are great at sharing, talking about their day, teasing each other and caring for each other. And you know that? It is great being friends that way.

Let us make friends because of similar tastes, despite differences, because we get along and regardless of gender.

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