The Reality of Long Distance Friendships

We have heard enough about Long Distance Relationships, it has been elaborated enough, talked about enough, dealt with enough and ended with many in heartbreaks and breakups. But you know what doesn’t get talked about enough? Long distance friendships or, what I am going to abbreviate as LDF from this point. Why does this not get talked about enough? Why are only relationships and heartbreaks over relationships emphasized over friendships just like I brought up in “my other kind of article”. Both are important, both are valuable and both can go one way or another. Hell, I was in a LDR( long distance relationship) with my husband before we finally got to be together for good. And my view on both kinds of long distance is the same: if you want it to work bad enough, you will make it work on both ends.

Remember how we wait until the end of the day or the weekend to go somewhere with our best friend and just get some off time? Why don’t enough people talk about how you’re not able to do that anymore when you’re in a LDF? Why do only people talk about the restlessness, the pain, the frustration of not being able to go on an actual date with your partner? Well, here’s the reality of long distance friendships : it is really hard. Sure, there is internet and video calls that will give you access to your best friend anytime you want, but it just isn’t the same. I do not want to see my best friend on a little screen. I want to see her and spend the entire day with her worry free. I do not want to make her choose between outfits on chat or video calls, I want to take her actual shopping with me. I hate taking screenshots of video calls, I want to take selfies with her where I can hold her near. I hate sending her the location of a new coffee shop when I know that I do not get the privilege of going there with her. Only if she were not more than a thousand miles away from me.

And if enough people do not talk about this, I want to talk about it : I want to be loud and clear. Dear Best Friend, I miss you so so much. I miss the luxury of being able to see you on weekends and spending hours with you, I miss laughing with you until our stomachs hurt, I miss going on rides with you, I miss trying a new coffee shop with you, I miss taking pictures with you, I miss going shopping with you, I miss all the delicious food you made for me, I miss coming to your house whenever I could, just because I could and I miss celebrating birthdays with you and I cannot wait to see you again.

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