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Sorry

Sorry is perhaps the only word that is both overused and underused. I’ll tell you how. When you want to hear it; when you at least want the other person to own up to what they did and they don’t, it’s the most underused word. It becomes a burden on your mind. And then there comes the instance where even the most hurtful of comments or actions are passed off with a sorry as if a sorry could make everything alright again and pick up all those broken pieces. There in those moments, sorry is the most overused word so much that it loses its value.

Recently, as my Youtube playlist played Taylor Swift’s “You’re not Sorry” on autoplay, I realized sometimes we can just tell if the other person is not genuinely sorry when they say it.

As human beings, we are prone to making mistakes, more times often than we would like to. Some of these mistakes are unintentional, actually most are unintentional and we hurt people around us without realizing. But the question is how apologetic we are for our wrong doing. Apologies mean nothing if we keep repeating the same actions.

The word sorry is genuine but our feelings must also be genuine when we say it. It does not solve all the problems but it can heal some damage when said with genuineness. It should never be an escape route.

Say it with genuine feelings.  Do not overuse or misuse the word. Ask yourself how you can make things with the other person or at least try never to repeat the same mistake.

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