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What should a Girl wear?




I’ve been there; you’ve been there; who are we kidding? We’ve all been there. Those side glances, that look, those whispers, we know what they mean, don’t we? They mean: look at her: what is she even wearing?


If you’ve been brought up in a judgmental society like ours, you’re bound to turn a few heads when you dress, as they deem ‘inappropriately’. These looks come from both genders. From females for “would you just look at her!” and for males again: “would you just look at her”, the tones of both statements are different of course and so is the intended purpose.
I never realized that it was the people’s perception rather than the way women dress in our nation, until I visited China, and I noticed nobody gave a second glance at you no matter what you were wearing. It compelled me to think, just how much pressure we were going through intentionally or unintentionally. 
Should a girl not wear whatever she wants? Should she take the pressure? The looks? The shifty eyes? just because she wore whatever she wanted? I can understand the concern; we do live in a society that is not safe for females, sadly. But, of course, there’s a time and place for everything. I mean, would you wear shorts to a formal event? You’ve got more sense than that! But nonetheless, what a girl should wear is only a matter of her own business, and no one else’s!

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  1. Sundeep ShakyaSeptember 18, 2019 at 1:14 PM

    Absolutely! Saying was eat to please yourself and dress to please others. Nope, dress to please yourself too! There are too many 'others' to think about and that it is not practical.

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